When I was in eighth grade, I had a friend
(I won't mention her name), who loved everything that a boy would. She was my
one friend who was a girl that I was actually able to get along with. The
reason for this was probably because she was a tomboy. Yes, it's true, I was
still afraid of girls, even in the eighth grade. Anyway, this friend, lets call
her Lucy, was a very bright, outgoing, and friendly girl, who a lot of people
loved for who she was on the inside, but not the outside. She was very self
conscious about herself; she had bad acne, freckles, no "hip" clothes
to wear. Although my guy friends and I would always tease her about how she
looked like one of us, she knew that we were just playing. The problem was when
other people, people who she hadn't even met before, started calling her names
everyday such as: ugly, disgusting, and manlady.
Although I teased
her by calling her mean names occasionally as well, I got extremely mad when
others would call her that. There was a huge difference from when I, her best
friend, who would always assure her that she was beautiful, called her that,
and when a group of random jerks called her that to hurt her feelings. I
remember when one day, in class, an asshole named Bart from the back of the
class made fun of Lucy, calling her the ugliest student in the whole school.
Although Lucy tried to pretend that she hadn't heard it, she casually told me
that she was sleepy, put her head down, and remained like that for the rest of
the class. When the bell rang and she had left to go to her next class, I saw
that there was a small puddle of water on her desk, and that she had been
crying, and not sleeping. I got so angry that I caught up to bart, broke his
nose, busted his lip open, knocked a few teeth out, and kicked his nuts. The
next day, it would be clear that Lucy couldn't have been the ugliest person in
the school, because he was. (Oh, and as for kicking him in the nuts, I just did
that because I was mad).
Lucy, after another week being called
horrible names in school, committed suicide. Her death saddened me to the point
where I wasn't able to come to school for a week, and also made me angry
towards all the people who had been mean to her, even myself. From that point
on, I never judged anyone based on appearance again, and showed no respect for
people who did.
Have you guys ever judged someone based on
their appearance or been judged based on your appearance?
I do it all the time. Sadly, I wish I could say I don't but that's the reason people dress with certain styles. We want people to see who we are and what we believe; a lot of those beliefs can be shown through how people dress. I would never judge someone based on what they genetically appear as but I think it's smart to judge people based on dress since you're seeing apart of that persons judgement. If someone wore baggy pants, a large football jersey and a tilted hat, you have every right to judge them because they woke up and decided to wear that. The same goes for myself, and the rest of humanity.
ReplyDeleteI have found myself judging people before and felt bad about it. I honestly think that everybody judges other people and it is just something that we can't control. However, we can control whether or not we actually say something about the person that we are judging. I might see somebody that looks or acts weird, but I'm not going to say something about it because to me that is just being rude and obnoxious.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure I've been judged on my appearance before, everyone judges the people the see, most just choose to keep the comments to themselves. I used to be a tomboy and still dress like one so I probably still get judged. I also judge people on how they look, but I don't ever mention it. The way people present themselves gives you a bit of insight into how they see themselves or want to be seen so naturally everyone will judge this. I would never make fun of someone or avoid them based on the looks they were born with though.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately I do judge people on their looks, and as sad as it is, we all do this to some degree. Most of the time we don’t even notice that we’re doing it, but we are judging people by looks all the time. I wish I didn’t judge people, and even though I wish I could change, I know I can’t. But I don’t like to really get judgmental about people, especially over something as stupid as their clothes, hair, etc. What I judge people on more is their manner of conducting themselves. For example, when I was meeting the people that are on my brother’s baseball team, I could tell a lot about them based on how they conducted themselves. I was able to pick out the people that I thought my brother could get along with because they were nice and humble, and I picked out the people who I could tell drove him crazy (because they were driving me crazy) because I could almost feel the egotism to them. And I have been judged a whole lot based on my appearance and most of them are not positive, and more of them were false. But, I don’t know what to do to combat this.
ReplyDeleteI have definitely been judged by my looks before. To some extent we all do. It may not be harsh judging but its human nature to "judge a book by its cover" and stereotype everyone you see. Being more on the artist side, sometimes the things I wear look odd to other people; but that is just who I am. Unfortunately, Im sure its something we will all face (on both ends) and theres not much we can do to change it.
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ReplyDeleteI honestly believe that everyone judges others based on appearance. No matter how hard you try to avoid it, it is inevitable. People automatically make judgements based on a persons appearance to understand what kind of person they may be, essentially judging the book by its cover. Whether a person is willing to admit it or not its a fact of life.
ReplyDeleteIt is a bad thing to say but I think it is almost impossible not to judge others. I think that we just do it without thinking about it. I bet that if you ask people in public, most will say that they do not judge others, when in fact they do. I think it is just the human race in general, it's instinct.
ReplyDeleteIt's not something to be proud of but yes, I have before and do a lot. It's hard not to judge people based on appearance because sometimes thats all we have to go on if we don't actually introduce ourselves to the person and get to know them. I'm sure I have been judged based on my appearance, it's kinda unavoidable.
ReplyDeleteI would be lying if i said i had never judged someone. A lot of us are so caught up with stereotypes and who fits into what category we miss out on the opportunity to have some awesome friends who may be a little different from ourselves. i'm assuming i've been judged on my appearance but i have never been openly made fun of
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